Beating will make matters worse!
When parents strike children, they must think that they simply "attract their attention" or cause them to be "old-fashioned".
However, if you get spanked, your child usually begins to behave even worse.
But pediatricians all say that this behavior of parents causes serious harm to children. And its consequences will be felt even after many years, writes NBCnews.
Experts from the American Academy of Pediatrics have updated parents' recommendations for avoiding corporal punishment.
They think that because of beating children become more aggressive and also have mental problems.
"Corporal punishment increases the likelihood that children will behave more aggressively and provocatively," he said in the new recommendations.
"Cuffs are useless, it's clear that children grow and develop better when the family has a positive atmosphere, and if children set acceptable limits, you can find a better method of parenting than spanking and spanking," says Dr Robert Szego, Medical Center, in one of the authors. .
Pediatricians believe that verbal mockery, insults and humiliation are useless.
"Parents, other carers and adults who interact with children and adolescents should not use corporal punishment (including blows and cheeks) in anger or punishment for or as a result of unacceptable behavior, nor should they use a punitive strategy that includes verbal insult to shame or humiliate the child, as stated in the updated recommendations.
"Children begin to behave badly after a few moments after such punishment. Moreover, they do not learn to control their behavior," said Dr. Sega.
"This method of punishing as depriving any privileges, etc. Teaches the child to monitor and manage their behavior. And this is the most important thing."
Many parents still think that physical punishment of children is an effective method of education.
For example, in the United States in 2004, experts from the American Academy of Pediatrics conducted a survey among parents of pre-school children. 2/3 of respondents said they sometimes beat their children.
Pediatricians also report that a few years later they conducted another questionnaire regarding these parents and their children. And 80% of parents admitted that he raised his hand to his children. 85% of teenagers say they are beaten and 51% say they have beaten a belt or similar object.
In 2013, a similar survey was carried out among parents in the United States. 70% of respondents agreed that "good beating is sometimes necessary to discipline a child". The good thing is that in 1986, this statement was agreed as many as 84% of parents.
Dr. Segal thinks the situation is changing:
"If we do not conduct a survey among parents of children under the age of five – means among parents of a new generation – it becomes clear that these parents do not like to beat their children, and some do not. It looks like there is a change of generations, and today's parents are significantly less likely to beat their children than their parents. "
Once a group of pediatricians studied the behavior of their parents. It turned out that most fathers and mothers warns children against direct impact. But after the blow they did not hesitate.
"Physical punishment should be on average 30 seconds after warning." This is, most likely, parents react impulsively or emotionally, but not intentionally, "say pediatricians.
But this is not very useful.
"Physical punishment is a temporary effect: for 10 minutes, most children (73%) behave the same as before punishment."
So little that corporal punishment is useless; it also affects the behavior of children in the future.
"Children who are often punished are more aggressive, especially at school. Psychiatric disorders and cognitive problems have also developed (memory impairment, reduced performance – ed.)," Says Dr. Segal.
These problems begin, even if the parents mostly behave very lovingly and gently towards the child.
Often, when parents beat their children – this means they have a serious problem.
"They often defeat children, parents suffering from depression." In addition, financial family problems, psychological problems, spouse abuse and abuse of harmful substances increase the frequency of children's beatings by their parents, "says Dr. Segal.
"In one small study, it was found that those parents who were beaten as a child are more likely to use physical punishment than other parents."
So what are the parents supposed to do?
Experts from the American Academy of Pediatrics provide two advice:
1. Establish a positive and loving relationship with the child, support him and help him. If you do not do it, your child will try to behave just because he is afraid of you.
2. Encourage your child if he behaves the way you want. It motivates him to behave in the future.
Pediatricians say that a very good method of education of school-age children – temporary prohibitions. For example, you can forbid children to play with friends or on the street for a time, use gadgets to sit in front of the TV or computer.
And you can consult a pediatrician about how to influence your child's behavior without harming him. A good pediatrician will never tell you to smash a child or apply another humiliating punishment.
For example, in the United States in 2016. A survey was conducted among paediatricians and only 6% of them confirmed that they were spanking. However, only 2.5% of experts really believed that the benefits would be smacked.
Experts from the American Academy of Pediatrics believe that positive motivation and encouragement for good behavior of children have produced results.
But in no case is it a physical punishment!
Do you think I have to beat my children to behave?
About the author
Ted Stone is a reporter in the news section since 2013. Earlier she wrote about the family's youth and dynamics for Styles and was a legal correspondent in the Metro office. Prior to joining Koz Week, Ted Stone worked as a staff writer at Village Voice and was an independent journalist for Newsday, The Wall Street Journal, GQ and Mirabella.
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