Arrive in the park with your children and encourage them to play. Sit down and pull out the phone. Your children are coming and ask you to play chase. Say "a minute" as you move through your media source.
We've all done it. It can be difficult not to. But these moments, when devices interrupt interactions, cause chaos to children and family dynamics.
If you are looking to improve your family life this year, how to dedicate yourself to disconnecting from devices and more often connecting to one another?
The reality is, the technology is constantly present in our lives. Ninety-eight percent of families live in a home with at least one device connected to the Internet. Parents use these devices an average of 3.5 hours a day, their children averaging 2.5 hours per day.
For children, this falls above the recommended guidance of the Canadian Children's Association for no more than an hour of high quality programming for children aged two to five years.
Families who eat together better
Families also often send messages, check social media, and surf the network during family time. Research shows that nearly 47 percent of families report using cell phones on the table.
Having regular family meals and connecting one to another at the table is important for the child's development. Essentially, families who eat together do better! But family dinners are besieged by technology.
As a result, the Common Sense Media educational campaign, dubbed #devicefreedinner, starring comedian Will Ferrell, was designed to help families avoid techno at the table and find a healthy balance with the media.
"Technological", or incursions and interruptions of digital devices during social interactions, has important implications for parenthood today. Next it is impossible to simultaneously write text, at the same time engaging and reacting consistently and sensitive to your child's needs.
Mobile devices can create sad children, unfriendly parents
Studies show that parents who are scattered from their mobile devices not only communicate less with their children, but are increasingly hostile to their children.
Children who compete with digital devices for the attention of their parents have shown that they are at risk for behavioral problems, including grief and withdrawal, hyperactivity and temperament.
Technological activities are not unnoticed by children. More than 50 percent of children report that their parents are overly checking their phones, and 36 percent say their parents are scattering their phones during the conversations.
So, are you ready to dedicate time on the screen and increase the time to connect with the family? If so, there are several ways to make this resolution successful:
1. Make a plan for the family device
Device plans can help your family decide how and how often the media will be used, and when and where it will be used. As a family, you can come up with solutions or alternatives when someone feels like pulling out his device (for example, to get a favorite game in the game or to play football).
2. Be a "media mentor"
Children learn about the media from those around them, especially from their parents. Parents should model habits for healthy navigation, which involves the use of moderation devices and not allowing them to mix in family time, to sleep or to be active.
3. Have a hive for the device
When your family calls together at the end of the day and the school day, drop your devices into a specific device hive. If possible, ask them not to "disturb" too.
4. Download the control of your phone
Your phone is designed to attract your attention. That's why the icons are colorful and warning alerts are in red! The Human Technologies Center offers many options to avoid falling into the trap to be prepared by your device. These include, shutting down social media and email notifications, placing your phone on a gray scale and keeping your home screen just for basic apps.
5. Resistance to the desire for documenting
Capturing special moments is important, but they should not replace the moments themselves. Try to be present and set priority in sharing moments with your child, not with social media followers.
6. Follow the habits of your device
Just like Fitbit calculates our steps, devices follow our use. Activate the function during the screen of your phone and monitor your use. Resolutions can be more successful when systematically monitored. Make a goal to reduce the use of your device by 10-25 percent and monitor your progress.
7. Understand your media habits
Understanding the science behind why technology can be so addictive. For some parents, the use of devices can be an escape from the difficult behavior of their child or a way to get rid of some stress. Unfortunately, the use of devices as a temporary stress can lead children to act more to bring back their parents' attention. As far as possible, try to find other ways to relieve stress, such as exercise, deep breathing, or taking the park.
Technology and devices can be used carefully and appropriately. Like everything else, they should be used in moderation and should not be replaced by important activities such as family time, sleep, out-of-play, exercise, and face-to-face interactions and communications.